And really, what do you propose as an alternative? That it's NOT OK for a guy to be upset that he feels he was decieved into sex?
There needs to be recognition that his revulsion toward transpeople is a question of the boundaries of his interest and not some inherent flaw or disgustingness in the transperson. It is possible to be straight and uninterested in what's gonna feel to you like gay sex without being revolted by the very possibility of it happening.
Lack of interest is not the same as revulsion. Period dot.
If I had a partner who needed me to wear a pony mask for him to enjoy himself, I might have to say, "Not that there's anything wrong with this mask, but it's not for me." If I had a partner who did not, in fact, have the penis I was looking for, I might have to say, "Not that there's anything wrong with this vagina, but it's not for me." I don't see why repulsion and disgust is the natural reaction, and not this. Is this really so hard?
Unfortunately, it doesn't matter how obvious people like you and me think that tolerance is. It doesn't matter that you or I would think, "WTF why would you attack someone over that?" What matters is that it happens, and it is not for you or me to ignore the crazy transphobic madpeople, nor is it for you or me to tell transpeople that they're too worried about the reaction they'll get.
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Date: 2010-08-07 07:40 pm (UTC)There needs to be recognition that his revulsion toward transpeople is a question of the boundaries of his interest and not some inherent flaw or disgustingness in the transperson. It is possible to be straight and uninterested in what's gonna feel to you like gay sex without being revolted by the very possibility of it happening.
Lack of interest is not the same as revulsion. Period dot.
If I had a partner who needed me to wear a pony mask for him to enjoy himself, I might have to say, "Not that there's anything wrong with this mask, but it's not for me." If I had a partner who did not, in fact, have the penis I was looking for, I might have to say, "Not that there's anything wrong with this vagina, but it's not for me." I don't see why repulsion and disgust is the natural reaction, and not this. Is this really so hard?
Unfortunately, it doesn't matter how obvious people like you and me think that tolerance is. It doesn't matter that you or I would think, "WTF why would you attack someone over that?" What matters is that it happens, and it is not for you or me to ignore the crazy transphobic madpeople, nor is it for you or me to tell transpeople that they're too worried about the reaction they'll get.